Monday, 28 July 2014

The start of planning our wedding

Since Rob asked me to marry him at one minute past midnight, on the 10th of July this year, I have been looking into everything wedding based to get some ideas for our own special day as well as asking friends for advice and help. When I think of one thing they mention five more that I haven't even considered! 

That being said however we do have some things that we definitely know which is helping us along the way. One is that we want to get married in Scotland on the 31st of January 2015. We have chosen that date because it is a unique date for us. It is the one day between our birthdays, mine being the 30th of January and Rob being the 1st of February. 

The second thing we know is that we want to get married in a castle. This has been Rob's dream for a long time and its one that I find truly romantic, even though picking a castle for our big day is hard we are narrowing them down and flying up to Scotland in August to pick the one for us. 

We also know that since neither of us are religious that our ceremony will be a humanist one and we are still looking into who will be marrying us. We have also picked some people who we want to be part of our big day and need to ask more. 

Slowly we are working out what we want and what we don't, like a Borg cube as our wedding cake, even if it looks cool we aren't having one.     

Every story has a beginning

As has been said many times every story has a beginning and this is no exception.  Just over three years ago now I met this wonderful girl called Nikki and we went on our first date.  As is no secret to our friends for me this was meant to just be a practice date after my previous relationship and for Nikki I was just some random guy to meet up with.  However clearly more happened.

Part of the reason it was just meant to be a practice date for me is I had a lot going on in my life at the time.  My first business had just failed and I had made a few other mistakes in my life and I was planning vaguely to move and start a fresh somewhere new and exciting.  Me being me of course this was all just a vague idea at the time and I had not settled on any details but suffice to say I had no plans for a long term relationship.

However after meeting Nikki for the first time I was intrigued to say the least and so the dating continued.  I did then all of a sudden make plans to move away which I was very open about however I was fortunate enough that Nikki was willing to continue to see where things went with us.

Fast forward a month of me driving from one end of the UK to the other and while I was very much enjoying the dates it was taking a toll on me and my continued sanity.  I asked Nikki to move in with me and she said yes and then the chaos and fun really began.  We had two dogs, two cats, a whole house and one Nikki to move from one end of the country.  However with the help of my good friend Duncan we managed this and started living a very happy life in a nice little town called Trowbridge.

But, how did we get to all this wedding chaos I hear you ask somehow magically from the other end of the internet and before you have even read this blog (yes I am guessing).  Well we continued to have a very fun existence together.  I found Nikki to be very kind, willing to put up with my randomness, fun to go out and play with and was here for the good times and the bad.  What more could you ask of a life long partner.  Given this I decided I had found my sweetheart and it was time to not just let her know (as I think she already did) but to announce this to the whole world in the traditional way.

I did this by being as obvious as I thought I could be.  I booked a room with a balcony view of the Eiffel Tower in Paris for our three year anniversary and I had been busy plotting both what I was going to do and all of the associated details.  I had figured Nikki might have noticed however to this day she assures me that she had no idea that I had planned on one minute past midnight on the 10th of July 2014 to ask her to marry me.  Being the traditionalist I am I did of course get down on one knee however rather than with the final ring I had a placement ring as I had been talked into the more modern way of choosing the final engagement ring together.  If I am honest I am very glad I did.

Of course me being me and jumping into whatever I want to do next I had no idea that what I thought was one simple and obvious question would lead to so many more.  When is the wedding?  Who is coming?  Who will be the best man and maid of honor? and the list goes on and on.  So to try and keep me sane during all of this and to help all of our friends see what we are doing and answer their questions I came to what I know, the internet.

This is something I have always dreamed of and always wanted, while it is more typical for girls to think of their wedding day I know I have always thought of what mine would be like and I am blessed to have someone beside me who wants to go along this journey with me.

Finally we will both be posting what we are up to on here which given the subject seems fitting.  This is our journey and so we should document this together.

Love, peace and happiness.