Wednesday, 6 August 2014

Dealing with awkwardness before our big day

This post is mainly about me and how I am dealing with some awkwardness so I will not have to on our wedding day. I am writing this post so I will not be asked on our special day why my mother is not invited to or at the wedding.


As many of you know I am an only child and my mother was a single parent and while we were close once we are not any longer. I have only seen my mother twice in the last three years and these two times have not been pleasant or happy. My mother is not the nicest person to try and get along with at the best of times. In fact the times we did see each other were uncomfortable for me as well as upsetting. We were close once, but even then there was tension between us and it grew due to several different issues along the years taking us to where we are now.


It was not an easy decision to make about my mother not being invited as I am sure every girl dreams about not only having their parents there to support them through one of the biggest days in their lives but to share in their excitement and I will not have that. This is where the problem lies.


I called my mother to tell her the good news on the Friday, the day after Rob proposed to me and I said yes. She was not happy for me like a mother should be for their child. She first complained that she was not the first to know (That was a certain Mr D! :)). Not only that but a bunch of other things too. The final straw came when she was very insulting and hurtful to not only me but Rob and our engagement, making me glad we did not tell her first. The things she said I will never be able to forgive her for and I know this.


Maybe if on the Tuesday when I had cooled off and called her she had said sorry but instead she said "If that's the way you feel about it tough.". Making me take the stance I have which will not change which is hard because I would love to be able to share my excitement and happiness with her as she is the only family I have. But that being said I do have some other rather lovely people to share my excitement with who are truly wonderful! Which makes me a very happy bride to be.


If you wish to ask me questions about it please do, I really do not mind and you know where to find me. But I do ask that no one asks us about this on our big day please.

Lots of love Nikki x

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